The Resource I only say this because I love you : how the way we talk can make or break family relationships throughout our lives, Deborah Tannen, (eaudio)

I only say this because I love you : how the way we talk can make or break family relationships throughout our lives, Deborah Tannen, (eaudio)

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I only say this because I love you : how the way we talk can make or break family relationships throughout our lives
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I only say this because I love you
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how the way we talk can make or break family relationships throughout our lives
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Deborah Tannen
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eng
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Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? Linguist Deborah Tannen reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic -- even when we're all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages -- unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen explores what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom. This eye-opening audiobook explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers -- and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters, why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age
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Tannen, Deborah
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  • Communication in families
  • Families
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adult
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I only say this because I love you : how the way we talk can make or break family relationships throughout our lives, Deborah Tannen, (eaudio)
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Abridged.
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9780743548588
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MWT11373756
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11373756
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I only say this because I love you : how the way we talk can make or break family relationships throughout our lives, Deborah Tannen, (eaudio)
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Publication
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unknown
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digital storage
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not applicable
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unknown
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  • not applicable
  • unknown
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Abridged.
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1 online resource (1 audio file (4hr., 30 min.))
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unknown
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  • online
  • electronic
Governing access note
Digital content provided by hoopla
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not applicable
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9780743548588
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(sound recording : hoopla Audio Book)
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not applicable
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not applicable
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unknown
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unknown
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digital.
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MWT11373756
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unknown
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access
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sound
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digital recording
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  • other
  • remote
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other
Stock number
11373756
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MWT11373756
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Mode of access: World Wide Web
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